For Family and Friends

When someone you know and love loses a baby it can be hard to know what to do or say. 

Below are just a few things to get you started. Keep in mind saying nothing could be the most hurtful thing of all.

 

Helpful Things to Say

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• “I’m so sorry,” (with a hug).

• “I am here for you.”

• “Your baby was so loved.”

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Listen and let them cry, and cry with them.

Helpful Things to Do

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• Pray for them

• Start a Meal Train

• Deliver flowers (keep in mind flowers die; use discernment when choosing this gift for your loved one)

• Send a sympathy card

• Have a mass said for the family

• Check in with them through phone calls or texts asking how they are doing. (Especially during the first year post-loss.)

• Give a small memorial gift IE: jewelry, a Christmas ornament, blankets/shawls, lanterns, etc.

This article written by Kelly Breaux (From Red Bird Ministries) for the Church does a great job articulating the needs of the bereaved parent. It hits on everything from child loss and miscarriage, to divorce and broken relationships, and even addresses the clergy. Check it out here:

10 Things parents of loss wants the Catholic Church to know

 

*One of the greatest fears bereaved parents have is that the child will be forgotten. Do not be afraid to remember the child or talk about him/her by name.*